If you cannot be positive, at least be quiet. ~ Joel Osteen
Although I consider myself to be a positive person, I’ve been bombarded with negative thoughts and negatives talks lately. I don’t become easily angered. I do become easily annoyed, and it’s easy for me to express that annoyance to everyone around me. If I don’t figure out how to fix this negativity soon, I feel like I might go crazy. It’s definitely time to fix this.
I’m a very open person. I don’t have much to hide in my life. I feel it’s not worth it to hide or lie about things. Holding in emotions tends to make me explode with anger, but letting them out instead of holding them in makes me frustrated anyway. There’s been no satisfaction in ranting and raving about my grievances and opinions of other people or their actions.
I don’t want to blame my negativity on everyone around me. I choose my attitude, but I will admit I’m around too many negative individuals. I live with my family, and, as much as I love them, I find the most negativity comes from being around them. I’ve been wanting to move out, but am at a point where I’m trying to save up my money before I do that. (Keeping my fingers crossed that I stumble upon a million dollars soon.) During the time I am saving up and working on moving, I am still going to be living in my mother and father’s house. In the meantime I’ve decided on five ways I can work on being more positive.
Scientifically, it’s been proven that regular meditation makes people more happy. I’ve done consistent meditation before, which means I can attest to this. Unfortunately, I haven’t been consistent in a long time. I believe it’s time to get back into the groove. Meditating in the morning before my day starts and again in the evening before bed. This will bring an overall sense of wellness to my life which I am in desperate need of.
Although saying, “I’ve been really busy lately,” is a great excuse, it’s not going to be an all right excuse any longer. Exercising releases endorphins that cause happiness which I need more of. This semester of school I’m taking, Yoga, Zumba, and Tae-Kwon-Do, which is a great source of exercise, but I definitely need to be more active again. I feel a lot better when I’m being active.
Working on hobbies in my downtime is a perfect way to clear my head. When I’m working on a writing project, cleaning, drawing, singing, etc., I am definitely not thinking about how someone made me upset a few hours ago. I’m thinking about how much I enjoy my passions. The more time I spend on things that are important to me, the less likely I am to dwell on things that have no value to me in the long run.
Write it and throw it
Sometimes, you can’t keep everything in. I know that if I hold in all my feelings, I get extremely frustrated, then let out my anger at someone who doesn’t deserve it.
I love writing. I get my best thoughts out when I put them on paper. This goal will be a good way to get rid of the negativity, but at the same time, let out anything that’s really frustrating me. I’ll write down those annoyances only to throw them out, never to return to them again. I don’t want to get too carried away with this. I figure it’s a better outlet then sharing them with other people close to me, spreading the negativity around which brings me to my next goal…
Avoid speaking about others behind their backs
I’ll willingly admit I am terrible with confrontation. Unless necessary, I avoid it at all costs. Which means I tend to tell my confidants about my dislikes towards other people. This is not a good habit to keep. It’s been a habit I’ve had for a very long time. I’ve have this “motto” for quite a while:
“How I feel about a person when I am not around them is how I truly feel about that person.”
Although I still believe this to be true, I need to stop living by it. I need to live more in the present rather than in the past. I need to learn to let things go.
This goal is especially hard because I’ve had many negative life experiences with others whom I put my trust in, and even people who I barely knew. It is not an easy thing to do, but if I go one day at a time, it will be much easier.
I am certain these are attainable goals. Mostly, I’m making my lifestyle a healthier one for myself. I need to keep a healthy environment, avoiding negativity as often as I can. Dwelling on negativity or the past has never helped me before.
I’ll let you know how things go for me with these goals in the next month.
Are you struggling with negativity yourself? Try some of these goals and see if they help you! Everyone struggles with negativity, even the most positive of people. You are not alone.